1/ @TheTakeaway @tanzinavega really disappointed you had this guest on a show peddling controversial theories that weaponize the failures of the #criminaljusticesystem #racism and #massincarceration against survivors of #domesticviolence and #coercivecontrol.

2/#VAWAs failures lie not only in its non-holistic, non-systemic approach to addressing #DV—not as #coercivecontrol and not in coordination with child safety risks, as it should be—but also in its methodology, assumptions, implementation etc. @thetakeaway @tanzinavega

3/Just because #VAWA is flawed doesn’t mean you throw the baby out with the bath water. Her theories are dangerous to #survivors and hide its misogynist underpinnings as they center #abuser needs over #survivor and #child #safety, #stability #strength. @TheTakeaway @tanzinavega

4/Current flawed practices, policies and implementation stem partly from legacy of law enforcement culture of sexism and double standard towards these crimes compared to stranger crimes. And services now don’t address all of a survivor’s needs...@TheTakeaway @tanzinavega

5/...from housing 2 education 2 jobs 2 health 2 legal support, so #abuser doesn’t engage in #DVbyproxy and use courts and #genderbias of courts to discredit legitimate allegations of abuse, child abuse and/or child sexual abuse. (See Ep. 9 of podcast) @TheTakeaway @tanzinavega

6/Not to mention, systemic wage discrimination, pregnancy discrimination, lack of affordable healthcare and childcare, immigrant threats, make staying the only choice survivors have, who don’t report or touch the #CJ system at all. What about them? @TheTakeaway @tanzinavega

7/Unemployment and alcohol are not “causes” of violence—#malesupremacy is, as well as the mindset that one is socialized to have from childhood, along with other risk factors. @TheTakeaway @tanzinavega

8/Giving job skills or support to abusers to dissuade them or diffuse incidents or reduce frequency of violence when their masculinity is threatened from unemployment is like saying let’s vote for 45 again so he won’t get angry and do more harm. @TheTakeaway @tanzinavega

9/I suggest you invite counterpoint guests to offset the damage this episode has done already. Giving a platform to these theories whose analysis and framing is inherently flawed is like mainstream news covering a Trump rally with an uncritical eye. @TheTakeaway @tanzinavega

10/Don’t be fooled by those who use the excuse that they are “honoring survivor autonomy” when they choose not to cooperate in a criminal prosecution. That’s the laziness and resignation at the weight of the problem masking as “respect.” @TheTakeaway @tanzinavega

11/No woke survivor wants to “co-parent” with an abuser or be enslaved. If they stay, it’s because we aren’t doing enough to address ALL their needs and to mitigate the risk or retaliation, violence etc. #consciousnessraising for survivors is key. @TheTakeaway @tanzinavega

12/DM me if you want suggestions for guests to talk about real solutions for #survivors of #abuse and their #children that don’t involve sacrificing survivor #voice, #safety, and #healing in deference to the abuser’s needs. @TheTakeaway @tanzinavega