Thread by @visakanv: "here's a truth that you seldom hear high-functioning people talk about, IMO because the potential upside is low and the potential downside i […]"

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here's a truth that you seldom hear high-functioning people talk about, IMO because the potential upside is low and the potential downside is high

once you cross certain thresholds on certain fronts, certain previously difficult-seeming things about life become *easy*

for me, the most epic eg is... flirting?

I used to *suck* at it

now I'm a "natural" at it

there's a scarcity/abundance dynamic

the difference in quality of social life as a bad flirt vs a good flirt *feels* like 1,000x, maybe 10,000x. "Nobody likes me" vs "people love me"

I wrote this mini-story a while ago because I was trying to express this, but I didn't know how to talk about it directly – and it really resonated with people

https://twitter.com/visakanv/status/1093406813159022592

I find myself thinking about how victor wooten talks about music

"it's so easy, but we make it hard"

there's something here – getting to the point where things are easy, requires a lot of work

but there's something profound here, about ease

https://twitter.com/visakanv/status/1086670220909895682

Here's @steveVai (who shares my birthday! hbd Steve!): "there's no work involved. it's all a joy. I never worked a day in my life, with the guitar. I never struggled. I've had a lot of challenges. but when it came to my feelings about what I do, never struggled a day in my life."

I used to watch that video over and over and try to internalize what he was saying. It seemed like voodoo magic. I wondered if he was lying or self-mythologizing. But I've come to think there's really something to it. There's something "zen" (idk) about it